Self Denial, a Lost Art?

I'd like to address an issue...of late, we have heard some of the most bizarre news...a man "becomes" a woman...genderless dating...a young man shoots and kills several members of a church at a Bible study! If one looks below the surface. of these, and other crimes and isses in our culture, we would see a basic theme...selfishness. Yes, selfishness. It's all about ME. I am not "happy" with the way God made me, the gender that I am, the spouse that I have, the color of someone else's skin, etc. etc. I, must be happy at all cost. I, must be fulfilled at all cost. Jesus made it very clear...the only way to happiness, is to DIE to one's self. Take up the cross, follow Him. Just days ago, a great hero to Christian's passed away. That amazing lady was Elisabeth Elliot. She has influenced many, including myself, and could certainly speak to "dying to self." She waited YEARS to marry the man of her dreams, only to have him murdered a few years after their marriage. She refused to give in to "self" realization or self pity, instead, serving One greater than herself, choosing to believe that He had a greater purpose for her than her desires. She continued to bless the Lord even in the midst of great personal tragedy. Our culture is very self focused. Self realization. Self fulfillment. Self must be glorified and pampered. Where has that gotten us, people??? Nowhere good. At all. Our nation was founded with much sweat, blood and tears. Men and women put sentiment and "self realization" aside, in order to serve a purpose greater than themselves. Some layed down their lives, lost property, were injured, etc. at great cost to self. Many thought nothing of the sacrifice. It was not about self, it was about something and someone greater. We need a return to this type of living in America and in the church, more importantly.